
Have you ever wondered how some people could be so different from you, more specifically a spouse or close relative? You wonder if there's something wrong with them more often than you think there's something wrong with you, not considering that they may as well be thinking the very same thing about you.
More than the differences between a man and a woman, as pointed out by Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray, more than the differences brought about by the month or year we were born in as dictated by our Zodiac and animal signs, more than the differences brought about by our genes or family environment and upbringing, we have our own personalities also called temperaments that partially define who we are.
Florence Littauer, through her book Personality Plus, provides keys to understanding yourself and the people around you. It first presents you with a personality profile test that will help you learn and recognize how your unique blend of traits affects the different aspects of your life. There are four basic temperaments of people, Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric and Phlegmatic.
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Popular Sanguine is the extrovert, the talker and the optimist. She is the life of the party, the story teller, enthusiastic and expressive, cheerful and bubbling over, has energy and enthusiasm, makes friends easily, charms others to work, thrives on compliments and likes spontaneous activities.
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Perfect Melancholy is the introvert, the thinker and the pessimist. He is deep, thoughtful and analytical, artistic and talented, schedule oriented, a perfectionist and has high standards, detail conscious, persistent and thorough, orderly and organized, needs to finish what he started, likes charts, graphs and lists, makes friends cautiously, and has a deep concern for others.
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Powerful Choleric is the extrovert, the doer and the optimist. She is the born leader, dynamic and active, has a compulsive need for change, strong willed and decisive, independent and self-sufficient, goal oriented, delegates work and insists on production, has little need for friends, thrives on opposition and excels in emergencies.
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Peaceful Phlegmatic is the introvert, the watcher and the pessimist. He is easygoing and relaxed, has a low-key personality, calm and patient, quiet but witty, mediates problems, finds the easy way, pleasant and enjoyable, easy to get along with, a good listener, doesn't get upset easily and avoids conflicts.
Though there are people who are a perfect match for each of these 4 personalities, most are a combination of two and sometimes more. Some people can be a combination of Sanguine/Choleric or Melancholy/Phlegmatic, also called the Natural Blends. Others can be Choleric/Melancholy or Sanguine/Phlegmatic, known as the Complementary Blends. Still there are those that are of the Opposites or the Sanguine/Melancholy and Choleric/Phlegmatic. These combinations are further explained and given examples in the book for the reader to better define the category that suits them most.
This defining of personality or temperament is not to label each one of us, but rather to help us better understand ourselves, why we do what we do, why act what we act and why we are what we are. Knowing our personality or blend helps us enhance our strengths as well as improve on our weaknesses. Acknowledging our personality type also help us understand other people, more importantly the people that surrounds us, better. Instead of trying to get them to be like us, we learn to empathize and accept that they have their own unique traits and characteristics.
This book is actually a fun way to discover yourself and others, and as I was reading it, I couldn't help but laugh at the actuality and truthfulness in its statements. You're sure to laugh too as you read about other people's stories and anecdotes and realizing it's your story too.